Wednesday, March 30, 2011

What I learned from my kids today...

     I just had one of those days with my four year old and almost three year old. I started out the day getting my house ready to host a lunch for our management team. When I am playing hostess, I should know that my kiddos' behavior will be the worst. I told our management team that they were entering a "war zone".  Mid-morning, this is the conversation that took place with my Becca-boo. After screaming unrighteously loud for my whiny Will to go get in his bed, because I could not hear another whine, I breathed deep and my sweet girl asked, "Mommy, are you frusterated?" I answered with a yes and she proceeds to tell me that   she is tired of the whining as well. I asked, "Becca, I don't want to yell like that, what is something I could do besides yell at him?" In her contemplative voice, she says, "you could hug him, kiss him, feed him, give him toys..." I affirmed her those were great ideas and gave her permission to ask me next time, respectfully of course, not to yell like that. She said she would and I walked away feeling like I had just had an unbelievably productive conversation with a 4 year old. 


     We had a great management meeting lasting about three hours figuring out all of life's problems and I was on my way to pick up my kiddos from Molly's house, where a babysitter kept them.  I get into the house to see my supposedly "potty trained" boy soaking wet with urine and his big sister grabbing him by his neck. This has been a reoccuring theme in his short life (refer to the following):


They are only 15 months apart and sibling rivalry has been an issue since Will was only 6 months old. I told my dear friend, Molly, that I am out of ideas on how to deal with this. We go through seasons, but this seems to be a season of sibling rivalry once again.  So, after being interrupted once while even writing this with Will's fingers getting slammed in yet another door, I am ending the day with free printable charts on my fridge to replace spankings with stickers. Will they work? I don't know, but it will give us a new day tomorrow with new incentives. Can I hear an AMEN?

5 comments:

Boonies in the Boonies said...

A.Men.
I really have no business commenting on this right now as my almost 4 year old daughter and 3 and a half year old son (just 13 months apart!) are running through the house naked, tackeling each other and figuring out new ways to get on each other (and my) nerves. Next year in Moms 'n More we are studying a new book, "Parenting is Heart Work." One thing they mentioned was to try when your kiddos are duking it out to ask EACH child what they were doing wrong ... not coming in saying, "what's going on here?" That that encourages them to become immediately defensive and start blaming each other. Just a tidbit of practical advice I've been trying to implement at the Boone house!

Boonies in the Boonies said...

Oopsy ... Just noticed I said 3 and a half year old son ... He's not- he's two and a half. Just in case the math was not adding up! ;)

kristen said...

Brooke! I am loving your blog! So far the only thing that I have really been keeping up with from the ranch. And I really had to laugh at the pictures. You are a great mom!

Heidi said...

Oh Brooke...Ill be praying that you keep your sanity. Also, I have tried the sticker chart in the past with some of my kiddos and it worked amazing. You just have to get as excited about the stickers as the kids so that getting a sticker is a big deal. Then after getting so many stickers I usually planned a fun activity. Hope if works for you. XoXo

Laura said...

First of all, this cracked me up, as I could picture perfectly how it was all going down. I love Becca's motherly advise, I might have to ask her some opinions on my life when I come to visit. I can't wait to hear how the sticker chart is working. See you soon

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